Are you tired of being tired?
Do you want something different for your life?
If you answered “no” to both these questions, give me a call because you’ve got it figured out, my friend.
But the rest of us are here in this world struggling to make it the best we can.
We all want something, but committing to the change is tough.
I don’t have all the answers, but I’ve learned some things in my life.
This is what I’m here to share with you. I’ve developed this simple 3-part change formula for how to finally change your life.
To finally change your life, you need to honestly identify the problem, set your eyes on the promise you make to yourself and your future, and set and stick to the path to change. It’s not easy, but it’s possible with motivation and support.
I’m Kenny Chapman, and I’m super pumped to be talking to you about change and how my life has changed many, many times over the years.
Let’s get into it!
Life Is Filled With Formulas
I want to honor your time.
I hear from my clients all the time, and the people that I’m coaching personally how much our talks on change have impacted their life.
At the time of this writing, I just came back from a four-day consultation with a client, and I’m motivated as heck to solve something for you today.
Everything’s about formulas in life.
If you’re in business, it’s about solving a math formula.
If you’re in a weight-loss situation, it’s about solving a math formula.
Even if you’re in a relationship situation that you want to improve, it’s about solving a communication formula.
This is funny coming from a guy like me.
I didn’t do so hot in school, right?
But I’m here with you today to talk about formulas.
Imagine you’re at school looking at a chalkboard (I’m dating myself a bit, aren’t I?)
What’s funny is you can have different negative associations with different things.
When I think about formulas, my mind jumps to a negative.
I see checkmarks.
I see Xs, divisions, lines, equations, square roots, etc.
That’s not what I’m talking about here today.
Your Life Can Change
My friend, I’m talking about you.
I’m talking about your life situation.
We’re talking about your finances.
Maybe I’m talking about your relationships.
Or I’m talking about you continuing to step into your greatest self.
I want you to continue to say yes to the person that you are becoming as well as the person that you can become.
I just want you to have confidence in this process.
But the formula we’re talking about today is the change formula.
This is a quick part of my book, The 6 Dimensions of Change 2.0.
In this book, I break down changes in detail.
But for now, let’s look at 3 ways to change your mindset and start you on the path of meaningful, sustainable change.
The Subconscious Mind And Change
We’ve got play tricks on our minds to embrace change.
It doesn’t naturally want it, and this is around the subconscious.
We’ve got to play a little trick on our minds, in a way.
I enjoyed a little magic show here and there, and most people do.
Unless you’re like the lovely Christy, magic makes her mad because she knows that there’s a reason behind it.
She has a mind that she wants to know what’s behind it.
Some of us just enjoy the mystery, and some of us need to figure it out.
Well, change is to me like magic is to Christy.
I can’t just sit back and watch it; I need to figure it out.
What’s the algorithm I need to solve for you?
Change is about getting the results that you want.
It’s about becoming the person that you need to become in order to get the results that you want.
Look At Your Life
It’s not a secret, for most of us, we will do more to avoid pain than we will to gain pleasure.
If you disagree with me on this and if you’re challenged by that, I challenge you to look at your own life situation.
Look at the times when you’ve actually made decisions and had defining moments.
I bet you’ll find that pain more than pleasure or desire to be better was the deciding factor.
More people lose weight because health issues develop than those who lose weight to feel better.
I know I can go back all the way to when my father decided to move back to California.
That was a big situation.
Thank God my mother made the divorce as easy as possible on me.
I was living with my father at the time, and he showered me with gifts and different things.
I had a new motorcycle, so I was living with him.
This didn’t really change me.
Then, he got up and moved away.
Woah.
Where does this leave me all of a sudden?
The world dealt me change at 11 or 12 or however old I was.
Now I’m going to move back in with my mom and my sister.
I wanted to stay in Western Colorado, even though I wasn’t living with dad.
This was one of those points in my life where things changed, and it was all forced on me.
I’m not saying it was bad in the end, not at all.
Number one, I believe it saved my life.
Number two, it created all kinds of strategic byproducts.
And number three, it created some challenges for me.
It helped me adopt a mindset that I needed to be challenged as I got older.
Pain Drives Change
Sometimes we’ll do more to avoid pain.
I know we seek pleasure, but sometimes we need to seek to avoid pain.
When I hit the jail cell at 19 years old, I went:
I don’t want this anymore.
Wherever you are in your life and your career as a leader, you’re a leader in your family or company, regardless of how big it is.
You have a duty to change for the better.
Here’s how we start.
3-Part Change Formula: How To Finally Change Your Life
#1 Identify The Problem
Number one, you’ve got to identify the problem.
What is the problem?
You would not be seeking a change if there wasn’t a problem.
Even if you believe in your mind that you are seeking pleasure, you’re not.
You want to change to fix the problems.
Whether it’s a life situation, relationship, a car, or whatever, you want to change the bad parts and make them good.
That’s fine.
Do you want the upgrade?
Here’s what I hear you saying:
There’s a problem here. I don’t want to stay here anymore. I don’t want to live like this any longer.
You don’t want to wake up and worry about the old adage: Is there going to be more money at the end of the day or month or year?
You’re tired of living like that.
Good!
Tired, Tired, Tired
Les Brown taught me to be tired of being tired.
When you do that, you’ll finally admit there’s a problem and want to change it.
First, we start with being honest.
All progress begins with telling the truth.
Stop using softeners.
This isn’t about kicking your own butt or beating yourself up.
This is about telling yourself the truth.
This is about honoring your truth.
It’s about honoring your spirituality.
It’s about honoring your prayers to God.
This is about honoring the universe and saying:
I want you to have something better!
But you’ve got to step up and claim it.
Admit what the problem is. Define it.
#2 What Is The Promise?
Number two, my friend:
What is the promise?
Now that we know what we don’t want, we need to look at the promise.
What is the promise?
Sometimes the promise may just be a better situation or a better life.
Maybe it’s a better relationship, better finances, or better health.
I was tired of getting to the top of the stairs and being out of breath.
I used to smoke cigarettes, and I smoked two packs a day back in the 80s and 90s with the Gulf War when I was overseas.
At the time, I was 20 and felt invincible.
Part of me didn’t even know if I’d make it home alive, so I figured: Why not?
I planned on quitting when I got back to the States.
It’d be easy, right?
Yeah, we can guess how that went.
When I got to the top of a flight of stairs, I couldn’t breathe.
Problem To Promise
That’s a problem.
What’s the promise going to be?
I’m going to feel better.
I’m going to have more energy.
You know, I didn’t want to rely on these little sticks to be there from the instant I woke up.
Give me my freedom back.
That’s the promise.
There’s a life that exists for me that can get better.
The same is true for you.
I’ve problems with mediocre marriages.
But I couldn’t figure it out.
There was a problem, I knew. But I didn’t have a promise for how things could get better.
There was a lovely Christy out there for me, but I had a promise to myself that there was something better before I changed enough to find her.
#3 What’s The Path?
We’ve identified the problem, and we’ve found the promise of something better.
Now we need to find the path.
There are all kinds of ways for you to get what you want.
There are all kinds of paths to financial independence, to economic freedom, and to what I coach and talk more on now than anything, emotional independence.
We’re taught from a young age we want to be financially free.
You meet with your financial planner on an annual basis.
They give you your financial plan.
You’re going to turn a certain age, and you’re going to be financially free.
Who cares?
I know plenty of multi-millionaires that are not emotionally free on paper.
They’re financially free, but they’re not emotionally free.
This is why I don’t like the idea of retirement (read more at the link).
Here’s an idea:
You’re not seeking financial freedom; you’re seeking emotional freedom.
What Is Freedom?
Economic independence is an incredible thing. Don’t get me wrong.
However, don’t kid yourself into thinking as soon as you have a certain number of dollars in the bank, emotionally, you’re going to be free.
So there’s a lot of different paths that you can use to get to where you want to go.
There were a lot of different paths that I could have chosen from the time I left a poor relationship to the time that I attracted the lovely Christy into my life.
By the way, she shut me down when I asked her out the first time.
It was three months later before I finally got the biggest sale of my life and got her to go on a date with me.
As a salesperson, I’m proud of that one, by the way.
It doesn’t show up on sales quotas, but it shows up in my life experience.
Asking The Bigger Question
So what is the path?
What’s the path going to be for your business?
What’s going to be the path for your family?
Your path affects everyone in your life: friends, family, team members, everyone.
By the way, check out this article on team member retention strategies when you’re done reading this.
The world completely threw us a curveball.
It totally changed all of a sudden with this pandemic and sudden chaos going on in the world.
What will be your path?
Choose carefully, but honestly that’s the beauty of change.
You get to choose!
My friend, it’s up to you.
Sometimes we get so confused.
We get so overwhelmed.
There are so many things pulling at your attention.
Companies are spending billions and billions of dollars on getting your attention.
Do you see what they’re doing?
They already know what’s valuable.
It’s not your money; it’s your attention.
Your time is precious.
Even our “free” webinars aren’t free (though they will add to your life, guaranteed).
You’ll take some tools, tips, tricks, strategies to change your life forever.
That’s key, but guess what?
It’s not free.
There’s an emotional cost. It’s time out of your day.
Nothing is free.
So spend your time, heart, and life on the right path.
Don’t let it go to waste.
What Do You Want?
Seek the path.
Here’s the situation:
You don’t have enough time.
That’s a problem, right?
What’s the promise going to be?
Some more freedom?
Some more opportunity for yourself?
Do you want more time to care for those around you?
Then, choose the right path.
What’s the path going to be?
That’s where you get involved full out.
You get to play full out.
You choose the path.
Make it a good one.
Final Thoughts
My friend, utilize this 3-part change formula for success and watch your life scale.
I’m giving you the key for how to finally change your life!
Look at the problem and identify it. Be honest with what the problem really is.
Find the promise of a better life. Look at what’s really important.
Then, go choose the path to your promise and walk it proudly.
Now, go make it a better-than-fantastic day!